Conflict and Coping in Military Families: Expectation Violations During Wartime Deployments

Abstract

The effects of military life extend beyond service members. Military spouses experience a variety of psychological, communicative, and emotional impairments as a by-product of wartime deployments. Yet, the media still promulgates themes, myths, and expectations about military life and deployments that hide the sacrifices of military and spousal service. This case study details the expectations of three military spouses who experienced at least one deployment. In particular, this case study shows how married spouses navigate the discrepancy between expectations and reality in the context of military deployments, providing insight into expectancy violations theory. Discussion questions are offered for further deliberation into expectancy violations theory, conflict, and coping in high stress careers.